Terrible twos help please!?

What you did sounds good to me! You let her know that that was not ok. Yes I know you feel like the mean mom but your not being mean you are just teaching, think about it like that. I never thought my son would have the "terrible twos" either but boy was I wrong. Everything you said he did to me also. They do grow out of it but it IS a phase. Be strong it will get better. Good luck!